KISS ME AGAIN RESOURCES 

Support Person Guidelines

        Someone who has great respect for you has asked you to walk through a healing journey with her. Because of the nature of this healing journey, Barbara Wilson, author of the book, Kiss Me Again; Restoring Lost Intimacy in Marriage recommended that she enlist the support of a friend to walk alongside her. Your friend is trusting God to heal her sexual past, whether from her own choices, or someone else’s choice force on her.  
Your role in the participant’s healing will be significant. You will offer the following to the woman you’re supporting: 

A listening ear; Confidentiality; Consistency; Accountability; Biblical insight; Wisdom; Love; Grace; Prayer support.

        The structure of your individual relationship will be up to you and your friend. However, we recommend if possible that you meet with her for one hour each week to discuss what God is teaching her through this book. This is helpful because she will be able to process with you what God is saying to her and allows you to affirm what God is doing in her life. It will also hold her accountable to complete the exercises in this book.If once a week is not possible we suggest that you talk and pray together once or twice a week by phone, and try to meet on alternate weeks. I have discovered that those who meet face to face with their support person have the greatest amount of success in their healing.

         Your friend needs you to listen to her with compassion, love her unconditionally, and keep what she shares confidential. She has been instructed to share with you specific insights to various exercises in this book, specifically from chapters 5 and 6. In addition there is a bible study at the back of this book that you can work through with her to take her to a deeper level of intimacy with God, and greater healing. You may find that God has something for you as well as you walk this path with her.

          If you have concerns about the woman you are supporting—if she exhibits signs of deep depression or seems suicidal, please assist her in seeing her doctor or a professional counselor. You may also email me through my website with any questions or concerns as you walk this journey together.

Thank you so much for allowing God to use you!

Barbara Wilson
www.barbarawilson.org

Recommended Resource List    (Print this list for your reference)

Sexual Abuse:

  • Wounded Heart by Dan Allendar
  • On the Threshold of Hope by Diane Mandt Langberg, PH.D.

Abortion:

  • Forgiven and Set Free (Bible Study for Women) by Linda Cochrane
  • Healing a Father’s Heart (Bible Study for Men) by Linda Cochrane

Pornography, Sexual Addiction:

  • Every Woman’s Battle by Shannon Ethridge
  • Every Man’s Battle by Steve Arterburn
  • Pure Desire by Ted Roberts
  • Celebrate Recovery (4 part series for sexual or substance addictions) by Rick Warren and John Baker
  • Final Freedom by Douglas Weiss

Dating/Relationships/Marriage:

  • Boundaries in Dating by John Townsend and Henry Cloud
  • Choosing God’s Best by Dan Rannikar
  • Your Single Treasure by Rick Stedman
  • Intimacy Cover-up by Roger Hillerstrom
  • Marriage Matters by Glenn T. Stanton
  • ReBonding: Preventing and Restoring Damaged Relationships by Dr. Donald M. Joy PH.D.
  • Gift Wrapped by God by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus
  • Secrets to Last Love: Uncovering the Keys to Life-Long Intimacy by Gary Smalley

Books on Healing:

  • The Invisible Bond; how to break free from your sexual past by Barbara Wilson
  • Kiss Me Again; Restoring Lost Intimacy in Marriage by Barbara Wilson

 

How to Talk to your Kids about Sex:

    BOOKS FOR GIRLS

  • Gift-Wrapped by God, Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus
  • And the Bride Wore White, Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity, By Dannah Gresh
  • Every Young Women’s Battle by Shannon Ethridge
  • When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy
  • Dangerous Dating: Helping Young Women Say No To Abusive Relationships by Patricia Riddle Gaddis
  • The Seven Checkpoints: Seven Principles Every Teenager Needs to Know, by Andy Stanley and Stuart Hall

      BOOKS FOR GUYS

  • Who Moved The Goal Post? by Bob Gresh
  • Every Young Man’s Battle by Steve Arterburn
  • The Seven Checkpoints: Seven Principles Every Teenager Needs to Know, by Andy Stanley and Stuart Hall
  • When God Writes Your Love Story byEric and Leslie Ludy

     

    BOOKS FOR PARENTS

  • Questions Kids Ask about Sex, The Medical Institute for Sexual Health
  • Epidemic: How Teen Sex is Killing our Kids, Meg Meeker, M.D.

 

      BOOKS FOR PARENTS TO READ TO CHILDREN

  • God’s Design for Sex, by Stan and Brenna Jones
  1. Book 1: The Story of Me (ages 3-5)
  2. Book 2: Before I was Born (ages 5-8)
  3. Book 3: What’s the Big Deal? Why God Cares About Sex (ages 8-11)
  4. Book 4: Facing the Facts: The Truth About Sex and You (ages 11-14)
  • Preparing for Adolescence by Dr. James Dobson. 
  • Protecting His Workmanship: Teaching Your Child God’s Design for Sexual Purity by Jeff and Pam Koehlinger 

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